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Wednesday 2 July 2014

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What should I eat when I'm breastfeeding?

You don't need to eat any special or different foods while you're breastfeeding. However, you should try to follow a healthy, balanced diet, which includes:
  • Starchy foods, such as bread and rice. Choose wholegrain varieties, for added fibre.
  • Plenty of fruit and vegetables
  • Some protein, such as lean meat, eggs and pulses. Have at least two portions of fish a week, including oily varieties, such as salmon.
  • Some low-fat dairy food, such as a yoghurt or a glass of milk.

What shouldn't I eat when breastfeeding?

You can eat virtually anything you like while breastfeeding, in moderation.

However, traces of food and drink can sometimes get into breastmilk, and this may affect your baby. Some babies are affected by a protein in cow's milk, which causes symptoms such as:

If you think that dairy is affecting your baby, talk to your health visitor about removing it from your diet for a week or so, to see if it makes a difference. Though if your baby has been diagnosed with a cow's milk allergy, your dietitian will advise you about how to remove it from your diet completely. You may also need to take calcium and vitamin D supplements.

There isn't much evidence to suggest that certain foods you eat while you are breastfeeding cause your baby to have colic. Colic could be due a number of things, such as your baby not being latched on well, or gulping milk too enthusiastically and taking in too much air (Despande 2012).

Some mums worry about eating peanuts while breastfeeding, but there's no real evidence that this makes your baby more likely to develop a peanut allergy (Kramer and Kakuma 2012, NICE 2011: 23). So as long as you're not allergic to peanuts, you can eat them as part of a balanced diet (DH 2009a).

Do I need to drink more water when I'm breastfeeding?

You only need to drink enough to satisfy your thirst while you're breastfeeding. Drinking lots of water, or being thirsty, won't affect your milk supply (AND 2012, Zimmerman 2009). Your body is very good at regulating its reserves to keep your milk supply going.

However, bear in mind that during breastfeeding your body releases the hormone oxytocin, which makes you feel thirsty. So keep a drink nearby when you're breastfeeding (NHS Choices 2012)

If you're worried about whether you're getting enough to drink, check the colour of your wee. If it's pale-coloured, you're getting plenty to drink. If it's dark yellow, or smells strongly, or if you feel lethargic or faint, you may be dehydrated, in which case you should drink more water.

Do I need extra calories when I am breastfeeding?

You don't need to have extra calories as a new mum, because your body is so efficient at producing milk (Illingworth et al 1986, NICE 2010: 7). Be guided by your appetite, and eat when you're hungry. Your body may have laid down fat stores during pregnancy, and breastfeeding can help to use up these fat stores (NICE 2010: 22).

The amount you need to eat depends on your pre-pregnancy weight, and how much weight you gained during pregnancy, as well as how active you are.

Having said that, breastfeeding usually gives you a big appetite. So if you don't feel like eating, it could be a sign that you need extra emotional support. Women who have postnatal depression sometimes lose their appetite. If you're finding it a struggle to eat, talk to your doctor or health visitor.

Can I lose weight while I'm breastfeeding?

Yes. You may have put on a bit of weight while you were pregnant, so losing some of this weight while you're breastfeeding is fine. Losing about 500g (1lb) to 1kg (2lb) a week shouldn't affect the amount or the quality of milk you make (Amorim Adegboye et al 2007, AND 2012, NICE 2008).

However, if you have a newborn, you'll need plenty of energy. Trying to lose weight too soon after giving birth may delay your recovery and make you feel even more tired. So try to wait until you've had your postnatal check before you lose weight.

Eating healthily and doing some gentle exercise will help you to get in shape. This is better than very strict low-calorie diets when you are breastfeeding. You can increase how much you exercise six weeks to eight weeks after giving birth, if you feel up to it (NICE 2010: 15).

Can I drink tea and coffee if I'm breastfeeding?

Avoid having lots of caffeinated drinks when you're breastfeeding (OTIS 2011). We don't have a UK guideline for a safe amount of caffeine for breastfeeding mums. In the US, women who are breastfeeding are recommended to have no more than about 200mg of caffeine a day(ACOG 2013, COD 2001). That's about two mugs of tea, or two mugs of instant coffee, or one mug of filter coffee, a day (FSA 2008).

More than this amount of caffeine is unlikely to harm your baby. However, if your baby seems very unsettled or restless, or finds it difficult to sleep, try cutting back on caffeine, or not having any at all. This may make a difference to your baby (LLLI 2006, OTIS 2011).

Can I drink alcohol if I'm breastfeeding?

The occasional drink is unlikely to harm you or your baby (NHS Choices 2012, Jones 2009). However, it's safest not to have more than one or two units of alcohol, once or twice a week (Jones 2009), if you are breastfeeding.

Alcohol passes through your breastmilk to your baby. Drinking more than two units a day while you are breastfeeding may reduce your milk supply, and even affect your baby's development (Jones 2009, UKMi 2012).

As a rough guide:
  • a small (125ml) glass of wine is two units
  • a pint of strong lager is three units
  • a bottle of alcopop is between one and two units

But this also depends on the strength of the drink, which will be detailed as a percentage on the label. The higher the percentage, the stronger the drink.

How fast alcohol enters your bloodstream, and then your breastmilk, depends on how much you weigh, and whether you have a full or empty stomach (Ho 2001). The amount of alcohol in your blood usually peaks between 30 minutes and 90 minutes after you have the drink (Jones 2009). You'll need to allow an hour or two for your body to be clear of one unit of alcohol (Wills 2000).

So if you want to have an alcoholic drink when you are breastfeeding, feed your baby before having the drink. Two or three hours later, when it's time to feed your baby again, the level of alcohol in your blood should be low enough not to affect your baby (Jones 2009).

However, if your baby is newborn, she may need feeding more often than every two hours or three hours. So you may want to stick to soft drinks for the moment.

Do I need to take any supplements if I'm breastfeeding?

You should take a daily supplement for breastfeeding mums that contains 10 micrograms (mcg) of vitamin D. Breastfed babies get vitamin D from breastmilk, so you need to have enough vitamin D in your diet (DH 2010). If you took a supplement containing vitamin D when you were pregnant, you can carry on taking it while you're breastfeeding.

If you took a vitamin D supplement throughout pregnancy, and continue to take it while you're breastfeeding, your baby will receive enough vitamin D in his first few months. However, if you didn't take a vitamin D supplement in pregnancy, and are breastfeeding, your baby may need to have daily vitamin D drops from when he's a month old (NHS 2011, DH 2009).

Vitamin D is made by our bodies when our skin is exposed to sunlight. It's important because it helps bones and teeth to grow healthily (NHS 2010). In the UK, it can be hard to make enough vitamin D all year round, especially if you don't spend much time outside, or have dark skin.

If you are on a low income, you may be eligible for free healthy start vitamins, which contain vitamins A, C and D (DH 2009). Find out more at your doctor's surgery or health visitor's clinic.

Can I have herbal remedies if I'm breastfeeding?

You can drink most herbal teas when you are breastfeeding. Herbal teas bought from supermarkets, which use ingredients you might cook with, such as fennel, camomile and peppermint, are safe to drink in moderation.

Herbal medicines, however, are a different matter. You shouldn't take them while you are breastfeeding (Burgess 2012), because we don't know enough about how they affect breastmilk

http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a3565/diet-for-a-healthy-breastfeeding-mum#ixzz36NkI8fcQ

Saturday 28 June 2014

STEAM ONION FOR BABY MILO WHEN HE BLOCKING NOSE AND COUGH

When milo turn to 7 mth, he has blocking nose for an month, see doctor, take medicine, all no use.
After i saw this on 1 taiwan mummy blog, she has this special idea, steam onion. looks weird, decided to try on myself 1st. Surprise that the taste is okey.

1 YELLOW ONION

Cut it to small pic, steam the onion tgt with ur rice when ur rice cooker showed keep warm.

Put 1.5 hrs or 2 hrs.

After steam, take out all the onion, you'll see some 'onion water' pour it out mix with some warm water. 1:1

It works on my baby.


I let my boy drank continually 3 days, 1 day 2 times,afternoon and before sleep.

it works on my sister's daughter when she coughing.


[F] 8 Great Benefits of Onions



    A quick glimpse at their incredible health benefits:
    • 1.The phytochemicals in onions improve the working of Vitamin C in the body, thus gifting you with improved immunity.
    • 2.Onions contain chromium, which assists in regulating blood sugar.
    • 3.For centuries, onions have been used to reduce inflammation and heal infections.
    • 4.Do you enjoy sliced onions with your food? If yes, rejoice! Raw onion encourages the production of good cholesterol (HDL), thus keeping your heart healthy.
    • 5.A powerful compound called quercetin in onions is known to play a significant role in preventing cancer.
    • 6.Got bitten by a honeybee? Apply onion juice on the area for immediate relief from the pain and burning sensation.
    • 7.Onions scavenge free radicals, thereby reducing your risk of developing gastric ulcers.
    • 8.Those bright green tops of green onions are rich in Vitamin A, so do use them often.


    what i do with the steamed onion???
    cook porridge.

    Friday 27 June 2014

    [传] 千萬不要讓人這樣逗孩子,會對孩子心理產生嚴重的傷害!

    千萬不要讓人這樣逗孩子,會對孩子心理產生嚴重的傷害!

    親友逗孩子是家長們常常遇到的事情,親友們往往是出于喜愛孩子才逗孩子,但逗孩子對孩子的成長有負面影響,有的家長意識到這一點,有的家長可能暫時未意識到。那麼,逗孩子會對孩子造成什么樣的影響?在遭遇這樣的尷尬事的時候家長如何應對呢?

    經常看到大人逗孩子,那種“逗”實際是一種戲弄。他們把孩子逗得出錯,或者驚慌、害怕甚至哭泣,大人們便笑了。逗孩子的那些成人并沒有惡意,甚至還是出於對孩子的喜愛,但對孩子來說這真是一種殘忍的行為,因為孩子不懂大人們的玩笑,他們會當真,成人的“逗”往往會讓他們感到憤怒、驚恐、不安、被欺騙、不被尊重,讓他們的心靈受到傷害。

    一次在餐館吃飯,我看到一群大人逗孩子,那一幕看得我難受極了。

    首先是孩子的爸爸指著他的朋友(大約30多歲)笑著對孩子說:兒子,叫哥哥!

    爸爸的朋友則笑著對孩子說:不能叫哥哥,叫伯伯!

    孩子爸爸繼續逗孩子:叫哥哥!

    在這一聲聲“叫哥哥”、“叫伯伯”中,孩子茫然不知所措。

    爸爸的朋友掏出一個紅包在孩子眼前晃了晃說:叫聲伯伯,這個紅包便給你。

    孩子不知道到底該叫眼前這個男人“伯伯”還是“哥哥”,猶疑著不吭聲,也不伸手接紅包。

    爸爸的朋友作勢要把紅包收起來:不叫伯伯啊,那這個紅包不給你了。

    孩子不吭聲。

    旁邊一位阿姨笑著說:這孩子膽子可真小,一直不說話,哈哈。

    我在旁邊看著,為這個孩子感到難過。由于大人們之間的玩笑,他不確定到底該叫那位男士“伯伯”還是“哥哥”,由於怕叫錯,索性他不開口叫人,卻被貼上了“膽小”的標簽!孩子此刻一定覺得自己不夠好,膽子不夠大,這是多麼糟糕的事!

    男士們喝酒去了。過了一會,一位女士接過了接力棒。

    她走到男孩身邊,蹲下來問道:xx,你是男孩還是女孩?我猜你是女孩。

    本來情緒緩和了一點的孩子不高興了,沉默。孩子明明是男孩,這位女士卻故意說他是女孩,孩子感受到了女士提問的虛假,所以他不回答。

    女士繼續逗,你不說啊,那你就是女孩啦!

    孩子有點著急,趴到媽媽腿上,仍然不說話。顯然他心里既著急又憤怒,憤怒的是明明自己不是女孩,那個阿姨卻亂說自己是女孩;著急的是,他不知道如何辯解。對于孩子而言,每一位大人都是一個巨人,孩子要反抗陌生的“巨人”需要一定的勇氣,尤其對于那些內心力量弱小的孩子而言,他們往往沒有勇氣去反抗、拒絕和辯解,他們只能默默忍受“巨人”對他們的捉弄,內心卻感到無比害怕和憤怒。

    這時,孩子的爸爸笑著說,再這樣下去他一會兒會哭的。孩子的媽媽只是笑著,並不阻止那位女士逗孩子的行為。

    女士並沒放過孩子,對孩子說,來,阿姨抱抱你,行不行?

    孩子縮到媽媽懷里,不說話。前面的捉弄讓孩子對女士毫無好感,怎么可能讓她抱呢?

    女士笑著說,你不說話啊,那我就強行抱你啦!邊說邊伸手假裝要抱孩子。

    孩子終於“哇”的一聲,嚇哭了,一桌子大人全笑了…

    以這個案例為例,我用圖表的形式來分析“逗”孩子的實質、孩子的感受及可能造成的後果:



    我難受的不是別人怎樣逗孩子,周周從小到大遇到過多次這樣的經歷,我難受的是孩子的父母全然未能意識到孩子的內心變化,未能給孩子提供保護和支持。這個過程中大人們是得到了快樂,但這種快樂建立在孩子的痛苦的基礎上。孩子得到了什麼呢?他被大人們欺騙、引誘、愚弄和嚇唬,他小小的心感到疑惑、受挫、不被尊重和害怕,這讓他感到不安,自尊心、自信心受到傷害,不敢相信別人,對他今後的人際交往可能造成障礙。

    逗孩子的實質是成人居高臨下以孩子的天真幼稚來取樂,是對孩子的不尊重。不同方式的“逗”對孩子造成的影響不一樣,嚇唬孩子讓孩子感到不安和恐懼,欺騙孩子讓孩子不敢信任別人,逗孩子做出不好的行為譬如吐口水、踢人會讓孩子是非不分。不管是什麼形式的“逗”對孩子的影響都是長遠甚至終身的。

    因為親戚不當的“逗”,我的小侄女曉曉曾經產生了心理陰影。

    一次曉曉來我們家做客,晚上一起吃飯的時候,她突然問道:姑姑,你說我媽媽還愛不愛我?

    我說:你媽媽當然愛你啊。

    曉曉滿臉擔憂的說:可是姨媽說媽媽以後不愛我了,只愛弟弟。

    我問曉曉,姨媽是什么時候說這話的。曉曉說,是家裡來了“100個人”的那一天。

    我馬上打電話找曉曉的媽媽和奶奶了解清楚情況,原來是在她弟弟的滿月酒上,一位姨媽對她說,曉曉,你媽媽有了你弟弟,今後只愛你弟弟,不愛你了。

    對於一個孩子來說,最恐懼的事情莫過于失去媽媽的愛了。一句“你媽媽只愛弟弟,不愛你了”對於孩子來說無異于是晴天霹靂。此時事情已經過去了幾個月,這個疑問讓曉曉糾結了幾個月,這幾個月里她該是多么的恐懼和不安啊。難怪這幾個月里,曉曉經常打弟弟,她是恨這個小小的嬰兒奪走了媽媽的愛呢。成人以為逗一下孩子取取樂無關緊要,卻不知道這樣會給孩子帶來多大的痛苦。

    看著曉曉充滿擔憂的樣子,我心痛極了,我捧著她的小臉,看著她的眼睛,一字一句的說:曉曉,姑姑鄭重的告訴你,姨媽是逗你的,這種逗是一種欺騙,是不對的。我敢保證:你媽媽和以前一樣愛你。

    曉曉半信半疑的說:姑姑,你說的是真的嗎?我媽媽真的和以前一樣愛我嗎?

    我說:你可以打電話問媽媽,讓媽媽親口告訴你。

    後來,我們做了一些努力,曉曉才重新相信媽媽還是愛她的。

    經常有家長寫信問我,當別人逗得孩子哭、害怕或者打人的時候不知該怎么辦,他們明知愚弄孩子會對孩子造成負面影響,但常常礙于面子,不好意思得罪熟人或者朋友,不阻止、不拒絕,甚至會幫對方解釋或者勸說自己的孩子。

    下面這位媽媽就為這個問題而困惑:

    我家寶寶現在2歲10個月,最近兩個月,特別喜歡打人。我觀察了一下,大概是這樣:

    去親戚家,他把自己帶來的玩具打開放在椅子上玩。親戚們圍過來看,還有帶小孩的。別人扶住他放玩具的椅子,他不愿意,讓別人別扶他的椅子。然後,親戚們逗他,讓他拿玩具和站在旁邊的弟弟一起玩,他不肯,說:不行!我說,弟弟喜歡你,所以想和你一起玩。他說,我不喜歡和弟弟一起玩。我說你看弟弟站在一旁,沒有拿你的玩具,要你同意弟弟才會拿。他就說:同意我也不拿給他玩!

    這時,旁邊有人逗他假裝拿他的玩具。他生氣的打人家。我說,你不喜歡別人拿你的玩具,你就說:請不要拿我的玩具。他說,我說了的,人家還是要拿。拿了我就要打。

    這時有親戚說,你這麼小氣,我們不和你玩了!他說:我自己玩!

    其實如果過幾分鐘他還是愿意跟別人玩,我覺得他可能是排斥一群人圍著他逗呢。換成是我,我也很煩。但是打人還是不對的。我告訴他不要打人,有話好好說,他說,我說了他們還是要拿。

    他還跟我說:“我又不是奶娃子,我都是哥哥了,他們還要逗我,討厭的很!

    這個孩子為什么會打人,原因媽媽已經說到了,孩子也說出來了——不喜歡別人逗他。孩子感受到別人逗他的時候是不真誠、不尊重他的,這讓他反感。譬如故意拿走他的玩具給弟弟或者妹妹玩,這是成人在試探這個孩子,孩子感受得到這是成人在試探他。孩子直接的抗議就是“打”。 可能是礙于面子,媽媽接下來的處理在孩子看來是替別人解釋,他覺得媽媽不理解他,于是更加憤怒,和媽媽杠上了。很多時候,我們也和這位媽媽一樣,可能照顧了親友的情緒、照顧了站在孩子旁邊的弟弟的情緒,唯獨沒有照顧自己孩子的情緒。媽媽的態度比親友的“逗”更讓孩子感到憤怒和傷心。

    那麼,家長在孩子被“逗”的時候該怎么做呢?當孩子被愚弄的時候,家長要第一時間站出來,保護自己的孩子不被愚弄。不要因為礙于面子保持沉默或者陪笑,更不要勸自己的孩子,或者去替那些逗孩子的人解釋,那樣會讓孩子感覺到孤立,連父母都不能理解和支持他。以這個案例為例,家長可以先平和的把孩子的感受說出來:xx,你是不喜歡大家這樣逗你是嗎?孩子聽到這句話,便知道爸爸(媽媽)理解他,憤怒、不安的情緒可以得到安撫。接著,家長可以平靜的對孩子說:大家其實是喜歡你,不過這種方式讓你不舒服了是不是?如果他們換一種方式表達對你的喜歡,你能接受的對嗎?這句話一方面說給孩子聽,讓孩子了解大家對他并沒有惡意;一方面也說給親友聽,讓親友明白孩子不喜歡大家用這種方式對他,換一種尊重孩子的方式孩子能夠接受。說這話的時候不能帶情緒,不能有指責的口氣,開明的親友聽到家長和孩子這樣的對話一般能理解孩子為何會憤怒,至少能意識到家長不喜歡別人這么逗他的孩子,大多數人會識趣的打住。如果親友們還是不知趣,繼續逗孩子,那麼家長要果斷地對親友們說“不”:各位,我知道大家是喜歡我的孩子才逗他,不過這種方式孩子不能接受,請大家換種方式和孩子交流,謝謝。

    必要的時候可以帶孩子暫時離開一會,先照顧孩子的情緒,事後再跟親友溝通。只要家長得體的處理,可以做到既保護了孩子又不會得罪親友,萬不得已的情況下,寧可得罪親友,也不能犧牲孩子的心理健康。

    對于大一點可以表達的孩子,可以教會孩子怎麼面對別人的“逗”。鼓勵孩子說出自己的真實感受,大膽表達自己的看法。周周從小到大經歷過不少親友們的“逗”,小的時候我替她說出她被逗時的不舒服、不安等感受,會表達後我便鼓勵她自己說出感受,鼓勵她勇敢地拒絕別人逗她。為了讓她敢于大膽拒絕別人的逗,我還和她進行演練。我扮演逗她的大人,她扮演被逗的小孩,我記得一些有趣的對話是這樣的:

    我:叫我阿姨,我給你吃糖。

    周周:我不吃你的糖。

    我:真的不吃嗎?你不吃我就給曉曉吃了哦!

    周周:給她吧,我不稀罕。

    我:踢你爸爸一腳,我帶你去游樂場玩。

    周周:踢人是不好的行為,我不會踢的。

    我:可是你不想去游樂場玩嗎?

    周周:我不喜歡你這樣逗我。

    曉曉那個案例,我也用演練的方式幫她消除陰影。起初,曉曉對姨媽說的“媽媽只愛弟弟,不愛你了”深信不疑,我和家人演示了一遍當時的場景,我扮演曉曉,家人扮演姨媽:

    家人:曉曉,你媽媽有了弟弟,今後只愛你弟弟,不愛你了!

    我:你騙人,我媽媽一直都很愛我。

    家人:是真的,你媽媽有了弟弟后就只去照顧你弟弟,沒時間照顧你了。這不是說明她不愛你了嗎?(大多數老大就是因為這一點而擔心媽媽不愛她了,在此我設計了這句話,打消孩子的疑慮)

    我:那是因為弟弟太小,不會照顧自己。

    家人:你媽媽親口跟我說,她不愛你了。

    我(大聲):請不要逗我,我不喜歡你這樣逗我。

    我們演示的時候,曉曉看得非常認真,眼裡有淚光閃爍。接下來,我邀請曉曉一起演練,我扮演姨媽,她扮演她自己。在演練過程中,她居然咯咯的笑了,反復要玩“這個游戲”,我知道她已經相信姨媽是騙她的,並覺得這種“逗”很可笑,她對這個事釋懷了。

    孩子始終不是活在真空中,總是要面對社會中形形色色的人和事的,所以遇到別人逗孩子并非完全是壞事,家長處理得當,壞事也能變成好事。這個過程中,家長鼓勵孩子說出自己的真實感受,大膽表達自己的想法,勇敢地拒絕別人“逗”他,孩子的內心力量便會慢慢增強,這就是好事。如果家長能夠理性而得體的處理“逗”孩子的問題,孩子會潛移默化的效仿家長,學習如何應對自己不喜歡的場景,學習如何為人處世,這不是生動的一課嗎?

    Thursday 26 June 2014

    1st Baby Food

    Baby Milo Favourite Avocado


    Avocado - a great first food for baby, avocados burst with essential fats and nutrients that a growing baby needs. Smooth and creamy, avocados are easily digested and well tolerated by most babies!

    Vitamins:  A, C, Niacin, Folate 

    Minerals: Potassium, Phosphorus, Iron, Magnesium, Calcium

    1. Peel and take out the pit of a ripe avocado - do not cook
    2. Cut “meat” out and mash with a fork
    3. There should be no need to use a machine as just like bananas, avocados have a very soft consistency and texture. Avocados do not need to be cooked
    4. Add formula/breast milk or water to thin or add cereal (if desired) to thicken up